There have been many ideologies surrounding the human soul and the role of one’s life partner in achieving their purpose. One of such ideologies is the concept of the “soulmate.” Even though the term is commonly used in error today to signify a loved one or life partner, its meaning and implications are much deeper.

Soulmate v. life partner

Our life partner is someone we can live with and depend on. They can be a friend or a lover, the defining trait is that you trust and depend on them to help you through life. You are both in sync with each other’s wants and needs and share a mutual feeling of love and respect. This kind of relationship is usually stable and long-lasting.

Your soulmate, on the other hand, is someone who is believed to be tied to your soul. They don’t always evoke feelings of love or respect as they are sent to help you transcend to a higher level of consciousness and awareness by challenging, awakening and stirring different parts of you [1]. Relationships with soulmates are not always stable and separation usually occurs once their purpose has been served.

The concept of soulmate

The concept of soulmate existed as far back as Plato’s time when he had Aristophanes discuss soulmates in his dialogue, “The Symposium.” [2]. Aristophanes stated that humans once had great strength to rival the gods; we were originally created with four arms, four legs, and two faces on a single head. To prevent the humans from attacking the gods, Zeus decided to split them in half as a deterrent and also a way to increase the number of humans who would worship the gods.

Aristophanes was convinced that both parts of the spilt whole would forever long to find their other half as a way to complete their soul and once we find our soulmate there would be an unspoken understanding. He also believed that both parts of the whole are connected by an invisible string that is genuinely unbreakable.

This sentiment is further reflected in a quote by an American artist, Julie Dillon, where she says that: “Our universe grants every soul a twin—a reflection of themselves—the kindred spirit – And no matter where they are or how far away they are from each other—even if they are in different dimensions, they will always find one another.” [3].

Characteristics of a soulmate

One widely accepted trait of soulmates it that our connection with them is ongoing even when we break ties with them. It is believed that we find our soulmate in different individuals and at various times and places during our lifetimes. Soulmates are our unique complement and we are somehow become our whole selves whenever we find them.

Finally, in the words of Elizabeth Gilbert: “People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.”[4].


  1. The Difference Between Soulmates and Life Partners – Forever Conscious“, Forever Conscious. May, 2019.
  2. The Concept Of Soulmates“, The Odyssey Online. August, 2016.
  3. The 45 Best Soulmate Quotes Ever“, Planet of Success. March, 2017.
  4. The Invisible Karmic Thread of Two People Who Are Meant to Be Together”, EWAO. May, 2019.
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