When someone is kind and courteous, it can help to lift your mood and improve your day. Social graces say a lot in situations when meeting new people. Being around a person who is polite in a genuine way feels like it makes your life better.

Adapting the habit of being polite can improve your life. Relationships with other people will improve, other people will begin to respect you, and your self-esteem and confidence will grow.

We learn through exposure, so some people take the time to learn polite habits or had parents that prioritized it. However, it’s never too late to learn how to be polite, and everyone has something new that they can add to their life. If you weren’t taught the importance of politeness, it’s possible that you might lack in certain social cues.

This list of 9  habits of polite people will help you see the value of politeness in your everyday life.

They will remember a name

As Dale Carnegie said “A person’s name is to him or her the sweetest and most important sound in any language.” . Some people will say that they “can’t remember names, only faces” but it really is as much effort as you put into it. Prioritizing someone’s name shows them that you value them and that they are important to you. It also shows respect for who they are.

They say “no” to complaining

It is a polite habit to remain positive with everyone. A polite person will respect other people’s time and will try to help other people feel good and have fun if possible. A polite person will know to say “please” and especially thank you. They will have an attitude of gratitude with almost every aspect of their life.

They are great at listening

A polite person pays mind to what is being said as well as the potential rules in a situation.  They have learned the important skill of active listening. A polite person will wait until it’s their turn to speak and have the habit of concentrating on what is being said, understanding what they’re saying, responding to what is being said, and remembering what is said to them. With positive body language and cues like eye contact and nodding, they’ll move a conversation forward.

They will smile often

One smile can brighten a person’s whole day. Even the act of smiling can make a person feel happier.  When they greet someone, they’ll be sure to give them a smile so that they feel warm and welcomed.

Smiling encourages people to smile back by activating mirror neurons, which can make them feel happier.

They think before they speak

Once something is said, it’s impossible to take it back. Polite people know this and they will think before speaking. This can help to avoid many arguments, relationship problems and hurt feelings. They will take care to be impeccable with their word, and always pause before sending an email, text message or saying something.

They avoid gossip

A polite person knows better than to gossip and they also take care to avoid listening to it. This includes everything from their personal life to the news magazines. Mature people avoid gossiping because it makes them look petty. It’s also an annoying habit and is very damaging.

They see others as equals

From the taxi driver to the CEO, a polite person will take the time to treat everyone with respect. They see the value in others without focusing on how they look or how much money they make, but for simply being another human being. A polite person will emphasize that people are equals and be treated with respect.

They respect boundaries

A polite person will be careful not to step on anyone’s toes and will be respectful of their personal space. They will also be careful to say excuse me. A polite person also respects non-physical boundaries.

They respect other’s beliefs

They will recognize that everyone has their differences, and they will refrain from imposing their beliefs on others. A polite person focuses on commonalities and making peace. They will choose to walk away from conflict as opposed to feed drama.

They don’t pay attention to drama

A polite person won’t focus on conflict or drama. Instead, they are mature enough to avoid it and they know that it is ultimately pointless. Their first thought when it comes to drama is “I want no part in it.”

This list of positive habits shows some of the niceties that people might tend to forget. Being polite Hopefully using some of these habits in your life can improve your personal relationships and self-esteem.


  1. “11 Habits of Truly Polite People”, Power of Positivity
  2. “Career Coach: The power of using a name”, Joyce E. A. Russell, Washington Post, January 12 2014
  3. “10 Super Easy Habits That Will Immediately Improve Your Professional Life”, Jack Kelly, Forbes, September 5 2018
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